2nd Incident

Since I was aware of his activities and the "contract" that somehow existed between us, I am expecting less frequent messaging between us. The assumptions are correct and I was missing him. It took a while for me to realize that I am not playing him.

We text from time to time and the casualness of our relationship is there. I thought this is not really serious so I should get a hold to myself. If I didn’t play right, I'll be in trouble. Then, a fortunate news came: he was a free man. Suddenly his girlfriend split-up with him. This was after I asked him if I am allowed to miss him. I'm giving you permission to miss me. LOL. I was sorry for him and I asked if he's devastated, sad and/or crying. He said no and asked if we could go out for a burger (I'm not expecting it to be only burgers). Cutting the crap out, we agreed to meet in a local motel. He has troubles with us seeing together entering those places so I went there first.

Casual "hello ma'am" and bottles of beer and baluts. I asked what happened.

He was so busy when his girlfriend asked for a visit. He reminded her of his obligations but the girl only threw tantrums and made "sumbat" on how he goes to visit his ex-girlfriends and that he may be flirting with another one (well I was there), so he stopped texting. He did not texted her for a while and one day, she just texted him "break na tayo", "ok".

I was furious of his behavior. If you love someone, you should at least make her see how busy you are. And she is like that for a reason (which he admitted) that she was spoiled in the first place. Guys would make their girlfriends believe that it’s okay to throw tantrums because they love them. In the past, he was always the one who courted her during fights. I was reminded of my own past. I paused.

You're just like my ex. You spoiled her like he spoiled me, making us believe that no matter what, you can stretch your patience. It's like letting a kid eat everything until they got obese then subjecting them into a strict diet and exercise. It's basically torture.

In his defense, he said that girls should understand that boyfriends have their limits. They were together for 5 years! C'mon, 5 years! How could you throw that easily? (I had 3 years and that is exactly my question).

Although they give the spoiling, girls should learn to transcend from the level of spoiling to keeping it real and mature. Isn't it basically wearing off of the glits and glamour. When novelty wears off, the real relationship begins. Counting the years is not relevant anymore. And it seems that he and my ex went there first before we, girls could follow. But, how could you go there? Is it an individual test?  Something you have to go through and resolve on your own?  As a couple, things should be done together right? I really don't know but I think that when you're in a relationship, it is crucial to assert your individuality. You will not be dependent but love him with what you have, not with what you are with him.